THE FAITHFUL PARENT
A biblical guide to raising a family
By Martha Peace & Stuart W. Scott. P&R Publishing. 242 pages. £11.99
ISBN 978 1 596 382 015
This book aims to be a complete parenting manual, covering all the stages of child development from infant to teenager.
Starting with the goals of parenting and studies on salvation and sanctification, and closing with special cases and problem issues, it concludes with a potted biography of C.H. Spurgeon(!). The book contains pages of tables, covering how to interact with your child, how to pray for your child, etc.
Strengths. The authors are keen to see biblical principles applied to child raising. Generally the advice given is sensible and appropriate. Given the wide scope, most parents will find some helpful tips and advice.
Weaknesses. There is apparent confusion in the minds of the authors as to the true status of children of Christian parents (published by P&R, the authors appear to be Baptists). Passages from the Gospels and epistles describing the relationship between believers are applied to the parent/child relationship. Parents of professing teenagers who present problems are encouraged to implement the church discipline instructions of Matthew 18 and take their children to the elders and, if necessary, to the church for problem resolution.
The book is very American in culture — few UK parents will look for Christian boarding schools to send troubled teenagers to. Some, perhaps many, parents will struggle with the level of physical punishment advocated in the book — would you smack a toddler for interrupting your quiet time? 150 years ago, J.C. Ryle wrote: ‘Parents must be loving and kind, but disobedience must be punished “seldom, but really and in good earnest’’’ — this seems more balanced advice. The book attempts to cover much ground, and consequently the advice on specific issues is brief, which may frustrate those looking for detailed help.
This book left me feeling uneasy with what appears an intense, even oppressive, parenting regime. I would hesitate to give this book to parents.
Andrew Hill,
minister, Highgate Road Chapel, London;
middle-aged, restless, Reformed
